Sunday, October 11, 2009

Dating Manners

By Marion Rose Jones

When you go on a date with someone there are specific things you should or should not do and specific ways you should behave. Of course you want the person to get to know you, so, first off, you shouldn't strive to be someone that you are not.

When you go out on a date you ought to look clean and dress nicely. This will show the other person, not only that you think about about your appearance, but that you also care about what they think about you. After all, If you don't care about what the other person thinks, then you probably shouldn't be going out on a date with them in the first place, should you?

This pointer really depends on the person you are taking out. It applies more to a man dating a woman, obviously, but some women don't like having doors opened for them either. You will have to play it by ear. I think that the best guidance I can give, is that you should remember to open the car doors and all doors for that matter (except the washroom door) for your date, unless you are told or you sense otherwise.

A lot of younger women might say they wouldn't judge a man by his door-opening behavior, but I think it does form a beneficial part of the overall picture she will be building up of you. However, if the woman you are going out with is an obvious feminist, then you had better let her open the doors for herself - just let her get on with it or it might trouble her. She might also want to pay for her own meal, but that's not a bad thing is it?

Make sure that you punctual. Be there when you say you will be there to pick her up and be ready to pay for the entire date. It might not come to that, she may buy a drink or two, but you can't rely on it, so slip a credit card in your wallet too. Better safe than sorry and you don't want to have walk home., would you?

So, that brings us conveniently to the next point, which is, don't take your date somewhere you cannot pay for because you never want to find yourself asking your date for a loan to pay the bill, unless you don't want to see her again.

Another part of dating etiquette also requires not making the other person feel as if they are on an interview. It is all too common for people on a date to ask too many questions because they want to get to know the other person quickly. However, how would you feel, if you were asked twenty questions between every course or drink? It is well-intentioned, but annoying. It is far better to have, say, half-a-dozen good, non-personal questions that you can discuss at more length.

If you push them too far, if you get too personal too quickly, you may frighten them off. Just try to generate a relaxing atmosphere by being considerate and yourself.

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