Friday, January 31, 2014

Understand And Manage Female Midlife Crisis

By Serena Price


The confusion that comes with female midlife crisis results from the realization that most of your life is behind you. It is mostly triggered menopause, the departure of children from home, aging or death of parents, unrealized career dreams as well as unemployment or underemployment. A person begins to compare his childhood dreams and current achievements.

Women begin to experience an unending desire to change their daily life. They want a different relationship, career, work balance, large expenditures, marriage and appearance, among other attributes. It is sometimes referred to as psychological crisis. It affects up to ten percent of the population especially persons with history of psychological issues. The symptoms vary from one person to the other and so do the behaviors.

Most of the women will show signs at the age of 40-60. There are normal experiences that are likely to occur at that age including death of a spouse and loss of employment. Expenditure increase should not be viewed as part of the turmoil that relates to age. Age is the main trigger for the crisis in question. The period will last between two and five years.

The regrets that characterize the turmoil come from career, relationships, the presence or absence of children, death or aging of parents and physical changes that occur due to age. Women experience regrets that are related to personal roles. While men would buy sport cars at the time, women are likely to change their lifestyle. There is a total emotional shift that is frightening.

Panic sets in because everything seems to be declining at a very fast pace. A person begins to retrace goals or dreams they may have abandoned in childhood or youth. Plans that never materialized cause a lot of remorse. There is fear of humiliation by friends and colleagues who have achieved more. One wants to act and feel youthful despite advances in age.

A lady desires to be alone most of the time or be with specific friends. The negative effect would be turning to drugs or alcohol. Women will turn to acquisition of expensive jewelry, clothes, gadgets and other lifestyle materials. They turn to tattoos and body piercing. Remorse sets in for minor wrongs. She wants to feel and dress like a youth.

There is a shift in relationship trends where the lady gets engaged to younger or strange men. She is looking for parental, sexual and professional identity. As a parent, the concern for children to excel in academics, sports and art increases. This turmoil takes a lot of mental energy but it is easy to deal with when one is mentally prepared.

During female midlife crisis you are advised to seek the assistance of a therapist or talk to a trusted friend. Pay special attention to everything you do and utilize all the chances you have before that age comes. It is important to embrace instead of fearing that part of your life. Enjoy proper diet and exercise regular. Consider this as an eye opener to new opportunities and act boldly. Do not allow the feeling to overwhelm you.




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