Sunday, February 2, 2014

Living Through A Female Midlife Crisis

By Serena Price


The female midlife crisis can catch you by surprise if you have no knowledge of what it is or what to expect from it. Unlike men women do not rush out and purchase a convertible and start running around with men half her age. She is more apt to become depressed and disappointed about her life in general. She may have spent her life looking after children and managing the house and now that the kids are grown she wonders what happened to her expectations and dreams. In short, she may feel empty.

As an answer to the depression that they feel some women may turn to alcohol or drugs for relief. They drink in private and keep it a secret from those around them. This behavior makes it even more insidious and difficult to overcome. The drugs they use can be sleeping pills or opiate pain medications. When this happens it is important to find a treatment program as soon as possible.

Many women experience menopause at this stage of their life. They must endure the hormonal changes as well as their emotional turmoil at one time. They begin to realize that they are aging and may begin to work compulsively on their appearance. They can purchase an entirely new wardrobe or join a gym and exercise much more than necessary. They have been known to seek out people who make them feel younger and spend most of their time with them.

It has been noted that more women have plastic surgery done during this period of their lives. Face lifts and breast augmentation being the most common. They may also begin staying out with friends after work instead of coming home in the evenings.

Husbands often do not realize what their wives are going through and can end up wounded by the changes they see. All of the sudden their wife wants to strike out on her own and become independent. She no longer desires his companionship and the rejection is difficult for him to endure. She is trying new things and he may not be involved with the new things. What he needs to remember is to support her in these new enterprises and grow with her without crowding her.

If you recognize what is happening to you this does not have to turn your life upside down. This can be a period of self improvement and an expansion of your image of yourself as a person of worth. Your husband can act as an intricate part of the changes you will make by giving you the support you need and using this time to expand his own horizons.

Working through this period will not be easy for you to do. There will be times when you want to throw up your hands and run away. There may be other times when everything is fine for awhile. Hopefully they will balance out to a happy medium. Try to find the things that bother you the most in your life and find solutions for those specific issues. This will work even if the problems are behaviors of the people who are closest to you.

To survive the female midlife crisis you must first acknowledge what is happening. Then talk about it to your family and friends. That can take some of the power away from it. Also talk to your doctor if you become depressed. There is help for depression available that includes counseling and medications. Make a serious effort not to over react to your situation. Impulsive behaviors usually have consequences behind them.




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